Why Do We Get Caught Up Trying to Change the World?
by Mark Votava
Today I want to be faithfully present to what is right in front of me. I am done with trying to change the world. Losing myself to a way of relational love, doing the small things that are simple, letting go of control, this is where I am being shaped within. These things have been difficult because sometimes I am left misunderstood, unacknowledged and frustrated.
But I am coming to understand that there is power in community, there is power in small acts of love, there is power in humility, there is power in vulnerability. I am afraid to give my life to these things sometimes. After many years of struggling to be myself, I am learning to have serenity, compassion, grace and gratitude. I am learning to be my true self.
As I breathe today the common air we all share, I want to live face-to-face with real life people in real life contexts in the place I live. This neighborhood where I have rooted my life this past decade has become a place of practice of love, grace and humility. I have the opportunity to love someone today who I may see tomorrow, next week, a month from now. My compassion to listen will keep me from harming the world I live in.
These are the things I want to focus on today as I have a good 24 hours to live into who I am in the present moment. These 168 hours that have been given to me this week will be hours of learning to love. I am drawn out of my pride and into vulnerability. I am drawn out of my confusion and into compassion.
This world will not discourage me, even though I cannot change it. I will let it be and just love it. I will love others and find some power in that.
- Stop trying to change or fix others
We need to stop trying to change or fix others. This is the call of being present to others out of love for them. Presence has an attentiveness to it. We need to be present to one another as friends who care deeply and love. We will have to let go of some control.
- Getting down to what is right in front of us
We will have to let go of the cliché that we can “change the world.” This vision is too big, too abstract. Let’s get down to what is right in front of us: real people in real life contexts who live in our neighborhood. These are the people we are called to love and become faithfully present to relationally.
- Faithful presence is slow, organic, face-to-face
Faithful presence takes time. It is slow. It is organic. It is not a project or program. It is real face-to-face relationship in the context of everyday life together. This is such a challenge and this relational presence will test our faith as the body of Christ.
How can we stop trying to change the world and become faithfully present to what is right in front of us?